Reserve Your Spot
Why You Argue Over and Over Again
4 very long words for you.
NEURO COGNITIVE RELATIONAL RECONFIGURATION
That is what you need in order to stop arguing and start listening in understanding each other. Simply put it means scrambling every thought you think about your partner so that you start seeing them differently, more compassionate, and with more understanding.
If you get defensive at all with your spouse it means you are operating from a part of the brain that will never find resolve until you learn to communicate in a different way from a different part of the brain.
However, the chances of you doing it through talk therapy alone is somewhere around zip and nada (and I'm a therapist so I can say that). You need a geeky neurocognitive freak obsessed with researching and implementing intimacy exercises to guide you. Luckily, you've just stumbled upon one. Enchante.
NEURO COGNITIVE RELATIONAL RECONFIGURATION
That is what you need in order to stop arguing and start listening in understanding each other. Simply put it means scrambling every thought you think about your partner so that you start seeing them differently, more compassionate, and with more understanding.
If you get defensive at all with your spouse it means you are operating from a part of the brain that will never find resolve until you learn to communicate in a different way from a different part of the brain.
However, the chances of you doing it through talk therapy alone is somewhere around zip and nada (and I'm a therapist so I can say that). You need a geeky neurocognitive freak obsessed with researching and implementing intimacy exercises to guide you. Luckily, you've just stumbled upon one. Enchante.
Don't Get Mad.
Get it on.
Get it on.
I specialize in holistic and somatic embodied intimacy exercises through marriage and family therapy which can include sex therapy. I provide you with solutions to last a lifetime. The goal is to embody love and connect to sacred eros.
The fastest way to destroy a marriage is....
UNPACKED TRAUMA RESPONSES
If you are NOT aware of how your life experiences influence the way you interact with your spouse, especially communicate - you are walking on field mines and will begin to form resentments, anger, and a plan for exit.
CONFLICT RESOLUTION IS A MUSCLE NOT A PASSIVE CIRCUMSTANCE
When you learn the tools to listen and understand instead of "talk" then the window for intimacy you've been longing for opens.
LESS TALKING. MORE CONNECTING.
Sensitive topics may include sex, sexuality, sexual dysfunctions, low libido, cheating, and infidelity, money, divorce, or no problems at all just celebrating love and getting access to Raven's off-the-hook intimacy exercises for a lifetime of intimacy.
FOR COUPLES NEEDING HELP &
IN-LOVE COUPLES READY TO DEEPEN THEIR LOVE
You no longer have to be fighting to see a relationship therapist to enjoy sacred eros. Partnerships and couples can now invest in intimacy rituals during any stage, whether you're dating, newlyweds, or married for 25 years.
The fastest way to destroy a marriage is....
UNPACKED TRAUMA RESPONSES
If you are NOT aware of how your life experiences influence the way you interact with your spouse, especially communicate - you are walking on field mines and will begin to form resentments, anger, and a plan for exit.
CONFLICT RESOLUTION IS A MUSCLE NOT A PASSIVE CIRCUMSTANCE
When you learn the tools to listen and understand instead of "talk" then the window for intimacy you've been longing for opens.
LESS TALKING. MORE CONNECTING.
Sensitive topics may include sex, sexuality, sexual dysfunctions, low libido, cheating, and infidelity, money, divorce, or no problems at all just celebrating love and getting access to Raven's off-the-hook intimacy exercises for a lifetime of intimacy.
FOR COUPLES NEEDING HELP &
IN-LOVE COUPLES READY TO DEEPEN THEIR LOVE
You no longer have to be fighting to see a relationship therapist to enjoy sacred eros. Partnerships and couples can now invest in intimacy rituals during any stage, whether you're dating, newlyweds, or married for 25 years.
Somatic
This is an example of a somatic homework exercise given after a session. Guided intimacy exercises are designed to slow down the chatter of what gets in the way of love and open the body to being totally 100% PRESENT with your partner so you can finally feel seen, heard, and loved. Sacred eros is waiting for you. These are small examples of what awaits.
Somatic Romance That Lasts A Lifetime
Try one of over 100 Somatic Intimacy Exercises Including:
~ Follow The Leader Exercise to find out who really likes to lead and who really likes to follow. The body doesn't lie about this one!
~ Attachment Exercise to discover what it feels like in your body to be in the presence of your partner's attachment style
~ Listening Ladder Game to finally learn how to communicate with your spouse without ever arguing again!
~ 5 Elemental Touch Game - Learn 5 different was to touch your partner through out the day in under 30 seconds!
~ Follow The Leader Exercise to find out who really likes to lead and who really likes to follow. The body doesn't lie about this one!
~ Attachment Exercise to discover what it feels like in your body to be in the presence of your partner's attachment style
~ Listening Ladder Game to finally learn how to communicate with your spouse without ever arguing again!
~ 5 Elemental Touch Game - Learn 5 different was to touch your partner through out the day in under 30 seconds!
Services
1:1 Telehealth/ In Person
Text to schedule your free consultation 805-888-0542
Couples Weekend Therapy Intensive
Text to schedule your free consultation 805-888-0542
Clinician Training
Text to schedule your free consultation 805-888-0542
About Raven
Raven has a unique background as a Tantra Practioner prior to becoming a therapist, which gives her a vast knowledge of Eastern philosophies in intimacy, not to mention extensive somatic intimacy exercises to share in a clinical setting.
Raven graduated with an MA in Clinical Psychology and is currently completing her PhD in Sexology, researching hard-to-talk-about sex therapy and intimacy topics.
Her unique session lengths and accessibility provide telehealth and in-person weekend intensives in areas such as California including Los Angeles, San Francisco, and the Bay Area makes her highly sought after.
Raven is a compassionate, patient, and very creative guide to all delicate intimacy issues. She takes and neurocognitive approach so that spouses can understand the why behind behaviors and learn to understand their spouse from a compassionate lens.
Raven graduated with an MA in Clinical Psychology and is currently completing her PhD in Sexology, researching hard-to-talk-about sex therapy and intimacy topics.
Her unique session lengths and accessibility provide telehealth and in-person weekend intensives in areas such as California including Los Angeles, San Francisco, and the Bay Area makes her highly sought after.
Raven is a compassionate, patient, and very creative guide to all delicate intimacy issues. She takes and neurocognitive approach so that spouses can understand the why behind behaviors and learn to understand their spouse from a compassionate lens.
Testimonials
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Clinical Training
Sex Therapists, Intimacy Coaches, and Healthcare professionals can now learn over 50+ new somatic treatment exercises to help couples stop talking and start communicating.
This training is unique and revolutionary as Raven uses her experience as a Tantra Practioner prior to becoming an AMFT. Each exercise is tailored to be clinically appropriate.
The revolutionary 5-STEP LISTENING LADDER alone will rejuvenate your practice giving you a powerful tool to share with couples that has taken couples from wanting to divorce to finally feeling heard, seen, and understood for the first time in sometimes decades!
The 5-STEP LISTENING LADDER is unique because of its blend of somatic-based exercises rooted in Tantra with active listening.
Available in person or online.
*Not available for CEU at this time.
This training is unique and revolutionary as Raven uses her experience as a Tantra Practioner prior to becoming an AMFT. Each exercise is tailored to be clinically appropriate.
The revolutionary 5-STEP LISTENING LADDER alone will rejuvenate your practice giving you a powerful tool to share with couples that has taken couples from wanting to divorce to finally feeling heard, seen, and understood for the first time in sometimes decades!
The 5-STEP LISTENING LADDER is unique because of its blend of somatic-based exercises rooted in Tantra with active listening.
Available in person or online.
*Not available for CEU at this time.