Reserve Your Spot

5 Step Listening Ladder
It's not your fault. You were never modeled or taught communication that is: 

~ Non-threatening
~ Compassionate
~ Resolves your feelings
~ Resolves your partner's feelings

NOW IS THE TIME TO LEARN

The 5-Step Listening Ladder is a unique somatic approach, so couples (trouples, quads, +) can STOP TALKING and START COMMUNICATING.

The fancy pants word for the process is 

Neuro-Cognitive Relational Reconfiguration 

It can be easy to learn, even fun. 

Click here to learn more:

Don't Get Mad. 
Get it on.
3 Reasons Why Marriages Lose Spark 
and seek marriage counseling:

1. Responsibility
2. Routine
3. Recoiling 

The Answer:

1. Reprioritize The Relationship
2. Create Novelty 
3. Communicate
  
LESS TALKING. MORE CONNECTING.

Even with infidelity, cheating, sexual dysfunctions, low libido, and lack of attraction, marriage can rebound with vitality

No matter how long you've been married...

Its NEVER too late to DATE YOUR SPOUSE  
This is an example of a somatic homework exercise given after a session.  Guided intimacy exercises are designed to slow down the chatter of what gets in the way of love and open the body to being totally 100% PRESENT with your partner so you can finally feel seen, heard, and loved.  Sacred eros is waiting for you. These are small examples of what awaits.   
Trauma Rewired
Trauma Reconfiguration is awareness of how trauma is stored, understood, and responded to in the body and mind. 

 This can be done in session by:
  • Creating new neural associations
  • Shifting internal narratives
  • Shift stored energy in the body
  • New Communication memory

It’s not just about healing past wounds—it’s about reorganizing the internal patterns (neural, emotional, relational, and somatic) that were formed in response to trauma so they no longer unconsciously govern behavior, relationships, or self-worth.


Exercise #1

Parts Letter

Write a letter from one part of you (like your inner child or critic) to another to build self-understanding and compassion. Unleash all of it without restraint.

Exercise #2

NO Self Boxing

Practice saying “No” with your voice and body when by yourself. Use hand gestures to create space and build boundary-setting confidence. RAISE YOUR VOICE.

Exercise #3

Cry Like Hell

Give yourself a safe space to lose your shit, let it rip, and let it out. Cry, cry, cry, and then cry more. Repeat.

Exercise #4

Dance It Out

Just one song. Pick one song a day and move freely to release emotion and reconnect with your body—no rules, just expression. Bonus points if you're naked.

1:1 Telehealth/ In Person

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Couples Weekend Therapy Intensive

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Clinician Training

25 Somatic Exercises for Your Therapy Practice Text to schedule your free consultation at 805-888-0542

Raven's Approach
Less talking ~ More Connection

Self Love Reigns Supreme 

No blame zones - even for cheating/infidelity

Weekly Homework Exercises

Different session options (1-3 hours, intensives, playful)

Diversity Yes! (sexuality, religion, BIPOC, ENM, BDSM, )

Every session starts with breathing & grounding

Neurocognitive Approach

Trauma Sensitive

Healthy Anger Expressions

Compassionate Patience 

Tantra Practioner


M.A. Clinical Psychology

PhD Student - Modern Sex Therapy Institute 
Clinical Training
Sex Therapists, Intimacy Coaches, and Healthcare professionals can now learn over 50+ new somatic treatment exercises to help couples stop talking and start communicating.
 
This training is unique and revolutionary as Raven uses her experience as a Tantra Practioner prior to becoming an AMFT. Each exercise is tailored to be clinically appropriate.

The revolutionary 5-STEP LISTENING LADDER alone will rejuvenate your practice giving you a powerful tool to share with couples that has taken couples from wanting to divorce to finally feeling heard, seen, and understood for the first time in sometimes decades!

The 5-STEP LISTENING LADDER is unique because of its blend of somatic-based exercises rooted in Tantra with active listening.

Available in person or online.
 
*Not available for CEU at this time.

Sacred Eros & Timeless Love: Embracing an Ageless Desire

  •  7/4/2024 10:42 AM

Sacred Eros is a timeless energy life force with roots in Tantra. Once embraced you can begin to experience how ageless intimacy really is and you don't have to worry about being past your prime ever again.

Why It's Hard For Men To Ask Their Wives for Sex: Challenges in Modern Relationships

  •  6/16/2020 12:00 AM

Learn what obstacles men face when wanting to ask for more sex from their wives. Also applies to all gendered relationships.

Mayra Sernas Mendez

AMFT

     

My favorite part of the clinician training with was getting into my body and doing the exercises. I learned so much about how our body language communicates and influences others. I highly recommend this training!

Lynetta

@thesoulmatecoaches

     

I couldn't believe all the intimacy exercises provided in the One Day Retreat Experience! I felt so much closer to my husband and still do!